“Just hold on.” I love this phrase. It is somewhat perfect after experiencing a loss by suicide. In the early days, it seems nearly impossible to have anything that resembles a wonderful day. The pain is on the surface; it is strong, overpowering, and consuming. People will offer words of encouragement such as, “this too will pass” or “give it time.” While they mean well, phrases such as these almost feel insulting in the aftermath of a tragedy like suicide. Because, it won’t pass, and time doesn’t change the reality. But, we can hold on. Hold on to the hope that the pain will become less present. Hold on to the hope that you will feel happiness and joy. Hold on to the memories that remain. Will it ever be the same? No, it won’t. BUT, it can be good again.