In the aftermath of a suicide loss, the first thing you want to do is run. The pain is intense, often times feeling unbearable. I think we have to run for a little while. Our bodies and minds need time to process the traumatic event that just occurred. It is healthy to want to avoid the pain. It becomes unhealthy when one goes to extremes to try and avoid the pain. That’s the thing about running. The pain will always be right behind you, waiting for you to stop. The problem with pain is, it doesn’t just go away. You have to feel the pain, in order to heal the pain. You don’t have to immerse yourself in it, but you have to allow yourself to go there. Courage. That is what grieving takes. It takes tremendous courage to feel the pain. Take the time to acknowledge the courage you possess. It is there. It sometimes just takes a little time to find it.