This quote sums up what makes the mourning process more difficult than what we have been taught. We live in a fast paced society, where we are expected to keep going. “Get over it.” “It is time to move on.” These are common phrases heard in the aftermath of a suicide loss. What people fail to acknowledge after a loss, is it isn’t just about the loss of life. It is about the loss of a future that is no longer possible. This notion is often what takes the longest to acknowledge and accept. “Getting over it” just isn’t possible. We have to figure out who we are now that this person we loved and expected to be in our future is no longer here. We have to figure out what our future will look like without the person we lost. We have to try and make sense of an act that appears to be senseless. THIS is why you can’t just “get over it.” It takes time to move forward in a world that no longer makes sense. Most importantly, do not allow the expectations of others to change your perception of self. Moving forward takes time.