Guest blogger Michelle H., who lost her son to suicide, returns again this week to share about an aspect of loss we have heard many survivors talk about in group meetings: the significance of particular dates and times associated with a loved one’s death. Can you relate?
How Markers of Time Evolve
I’ve been thinking about why the markers of time are so important to me. In the first few months, I marked the time following my son’s death by days and weeks. Every Wednesday, around 9:30 (when I found Marcus) and Thursday at 9:57 (when his heart stopped beating after we stopped life support) had so much significance in my mind. I could feel the dark cloud increase. Usually, I would light a candle at those times and I spent a lot of time outside at night looking up into the sky.