When I first read this quote, I questioned if it was appropriate for motivational Monday. It seemed a little sad and somewhat depressing. So, are you saying the pain never ends? Then I sat down to think about it, and here I am posting it on our site today. I think one of the problems with grieving is the expectations we set for it. We expect to get it over it. We expect to forget. What happens when we don’t meet our own expectations? We get discouraged. We think there is something wrong with us. We can’t expect the pain to go away. Almost five years later, and I still feel the pain. While it doesn’t go away, it does become less crippling. It begins to not be the first thing we think about when we wake up, or the last thing before falling asleep. Maybe if we manage our expectations the weight will feel less heavy. Maybe it will eliminate the pressure we put on ourselves. Life will not be the same. We will always miss the person we lost. Don’t expect too much from yourself.
Thank you. It’s has been 12 years for me since I lost my father.
It has been almost 11 years since I lost my son – and yes the pain is still there..
Thankyou Jessica. It has been a year for me since losing my 20 year old son. I know that I am very new in this journey and that we never get over grief…we learn to live with it.