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The halo effect of my dad’s suicide was felt again this week - nearly three and a half years later - during a visit to my hometown; it was the first time I made the trek since welcoming my baby daughter. In addition to introducing her to some relatives, we were holding her baptism at my family church. I cushioned our arrival time to allow for a quick visit to the cemetery to “introduce” her to my dad, as well. Leading up to the trip, I envisioned ...
The holiday season can be especially difficult for those who have lost a loved one to suicide, as we face a number of emotions including sadness, guilt, anger and shame. I have found that many survivors think about their loved ones more frequently during this time as we are reminded that they are no longer with us. Survivors often feel conflicted not knowing if it is ok to feel happy during this time of year. I have written a few posts about ...
Living in the Midwest, it’s common to succumb to the doldrums of winter. The blistering cold, the mountains of snowfall and the lack of sunshine can all contribute to seasonal blues. For some, seasonal depression, or Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) can hit during the holidays. The time spent either with or without family can influence people significantly. For others, this feeling may come after the bright and happy holiday timeframe, when ...
I follow The Alliance of Hope for Suicide Survivors on Facebook, and read a post last month entitled A Moment in Time: Eulogy for Kathy, my Sweet Sister. The Author, MaryCatherine, asks you to pause and "not to reduce her entire life to that one moment that she made the transition from being alive in this world." This quote resinated with me, as I struggle to ensure that my father is remembered for the man he was, and not the moment that ended ...
As human beings, we make assumptions on a regular basis. When we walk outside and see dark clouds, we assume it is going to rain. So, we grab an umbrella to protect us from getting wet. Our assumptions are based on our own beliefs. They are shaped by our past experiences. They help us make sense out of this world. While one might assume that assumptions can often make grief after suicide even more complicated as we survivors search for the ...
