Offering hope, comfort and support for survivors of suicide loss.
Do you ever dream of your loved one who has died by suicide? Upon reading Kimberly Starr's guest post on this topic, I was reminded that it's been quite a while since my dad has appeared in my dreams. Early on, mine were built around themes of anger or conflict but I long for one like Kimberly experienced about her son.
"A Wish Granted" by Kimberly Starr
On days I have counseling, I often recount my sessions with my husband, LJ. Sharing my ...
There are moments in the aftermath of a suicide loss where happiness and sadness collide. For many years I felt conflicted when sadness appeared during times that should be happy. I tried to stuff the sadness down, not acknowledging its presence. What I found was by burying the sadness, I wasn't able to experience the happiness. Why does it have to be happiness OR sadness? I have come to find out that it doesn't have to be one or the other. You ...
This week we welcome guest author, Linda Meyers, who talks about the trauma of suicide. Thank you Linda for taking the time to talk about the loss of your mother.
I was 28 and the mother of three little boys when my mother, age 52, succeeded in killing herself. I was devastated, but I was also outraged. How, I wondered, would it be possible to grieve the victim when the victim is also the perpetrator? There is no other death that presents ...
So often we are told, "It is time to get over it and move on" after the loss of a loved one to suicide. It fascinates me that we have this notion that in order to move forward, we have to "get over" the person that we have lost. Getting over someone that you have loved is simply not possible. The grieving process isn't about moving on; it's about moving forward WITH the person that you lost.
One busy morning I was crabby and short fused as I ...
I have struggled with this idea of being complete. It all began with the infamous quote from Jerry Macguire, "You complete me." After losing my dad to suicide I began to wonder if we have to be complete? Does having an empty place in your heart make you incomplete? Or does it simply mean that you have suffered a great loss; a loss so great that it took a piece of your heart along with it. Part of the grief process is learning to live without the ...
