Offering hope, comfort and support for survivors of suicide loss.
As a survivor of a tragic loss, you will never forget the moment that you found out (or for some of us found) that your loved one had left this Earth. It is burned into our memory, leaving a scar on our heart. What we rarely discuss is the pain associated with the what would have or should have been. Whether we are conscious of it or not, we had already created future memories with the person we lost. We never thought that they would not be ...
Powerless and helpless; two feelings that I don't think anyone enjoys experiencing. Anyone who has experienced a loss by suicide can agree that these two feelings contribute to the utter devastation you feel in the aftermath. Suicide does not just shake the ground a bit; it completely shatters the foundation. We are left feeling completely powerless and helpless.
In our state of powerlessness and helplessness we often find ourselves deep in ...
Not only acknowledging, but accepting that our life will never be the same as it was before our loved one took their life is not an easy part of the grief journey. We try desperately to hold on to the life we had before. The problem with this, is that it keeps us in the past. Trying to go back is like an adult attempting to live like they did during their adolescence. It just isn't possible. Too much has happened. Life has changed; we have ...
It’s difficult to imagine that survivors of suicide could feel “thankful” after experiencing such a major life tragedy, but, today, we would like to wish all of you a very Happy Thanksgiving. It’s true, survivors have to dig a little deeper to reach those emotions, but the fact is, there are still many things we can be grateful for. We can still experience feelings of thanks amidst sorrow.
We can relish in the memories, photos and videos of ...
When I am asked, "When will the pain end" I simply answer, "It won't." In order to no longer feel pain, the person you lost would have to be erased from your memory. It is not possible to no longer feel the sadness left behind after tragic loss. I do not tell people that the pain doesn't go away, to make them feel hopeless. Instead, I tell them in an effort to help them set realistic expectations for themselves. When one experiences a "grief ...
