While I believe that the Stages of Grief are outdated, and often do not apply to a violent loss like suicide, I love this quote from Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. It sums up life after a great loss, and challenges you to think about loss differently. Grief does not have an end date, nor should it. How can someone just wake up one day, and no longer miss the person that they lost? It isn’t realistic. As a society we believe that people should “get over it.” How many times have I heard this phrase mentioned as it pertained to a loss. It isn’t about getting over the loss, it is about learning to live without the person you lost. Asking someone to “get over” the person they lost, is like asking someone to no longer love the person that they lost. It isn’t fair, and it isn’t realistic. What we can do is learn to live again. We can find ways to incorporate our loved ones memory into the present. Moving forward isn’t the same as letting go.